I can’t help but notice that this articleis one big media mindfuck. Let me try and break this down at 5:30 am: The second you see an article that begins with “Feminists say…” JUST. STOP. FREEZE. You already know that what you are looking at is a direct contributor to the ongoing socially constructed myth that a feminist is a feminist is a feminist. This would be equivalent to starting out your…
I didn’t expect my response to this article to be so damn lengthy but that’s the kinda shit that happens when you get all worked up.
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I can’t help but notice that this article is one big media mindfuck. Let me try and quickly break this down at close to 5am in the morning:
The second you see an article that begins with “Feminists say…” JUST. STOP. FREEZE. You already know that what you are looking at is a direct contributor to the ongoing socially constructed myth that a feminist is a feminist is a feminist. This would be equivalent to starting out your article with “Jews Say…..” “Mexicans Say…..” “Black People say….” lumping a group together as having one opinion/one set of morals/one way of viewing a product is downright ignorant (not to mention lazy). Maybe if we stopped assuming/being programmed via media sources that “Feminists say…..” anything as one-man-hating-gelatinous unit we could start to finally disassociate the word “feminist” from it’s F-Word status.
There is a wide-fucking-array of feminist ideologies/movements/etc both throughout history and even more so today. For example:
Liberal feminism, Anarcha-feminism, Radical Feminism, Cultural feminism, separatist feminism, Chicana feminism, postmodern feminism ….. and if you want to see just how many categories I am leaving out go head over to your local google search bar.
Let’s also not forget when you say things like “Feminists say…” the article/story/person is always about to reference a group of women (usually in a state of discontent and rage). Guess what? Men are feminists too.
The concern presented (with no data to back anything up regarding how this writer got access to the minds of all feminist beings on the planet) is that the very fact the nail polish is being created in it of itself is contributing to rape culture- reinforcing it as normal behavior and something women now have to add as their responsiblity to avoid assault.
While this is a completely valid point I also can’t make this such a black and white issue.
We need to address the problem at the root but we also need immediate safety measures. I can’t help but feel sad for us as a society that we can fund and dedicate so much academic resources to making rape-friendly nail polish but we can’t seem to get some serious discourse going on why so many women are being raped in the first place. Stop giving women rape bandaids. Stop telling victims of sexual assault that staying safe is 100 percent up to them. Maybe most men don’t need to think about these things but once little girls start wearing nail polish for the first time and are told to swirl there fingers around before the new babysitter serves them juice we have bred a new generation of fear and the expectation that as a woman we are always gonna have to be on guard. What about a product that gives a dude (or person) who is about to rape someone an electrical shock. And they have to wear/put this device on there belt or bracelet before heading to the club. Ya know, in case they start feeling a little Rape-y and that bitch wasn’t wearing her nail polish. Now - of course, it’s all her fault again.
Questions I have: Is this toxic? I know they will say it’s not but we eat and consume and breath unregulated chemicals every fucking day. In fact most makeup is toxic as shit. You may as well rub rat poison on your cheeks. Second, how much will this cost? Will they have a wide array of AWESOME colors? Will people know right away that it’s ’special’ polish? “Hey- bro- that chick over there. I’m pretty sure I heard from Ricky that is the Roofie Red shade. I wouldn’t go after that one.” Will they have names like Roofie Red? Sassy Assault? Just say No-Opal?
What happens if the nail polish is a dud and doesn’t work and she gets raped? Will the court make note she had on rape-detecting polish and therefore failed in her own responsibility? It is terrifying and so clearly something I can see happening with some sleaze bag lawyers. “No, your honor- she swirled her drink. If I roofed her how come it didn’t change color?”
Yes- women do not all even wear nail polish but I don’t take issue with that specific complaint. Because again, every women is different. Every feminist is different. But we all can get raped the same. And to me- that seems like something the perpetrators need to fix- not the victims.
NOTE: This doesn’t mean I don’t think having something like is bad in our current reality. Because when it comes down to quality of life- if you can save yourself from a lifetime of trauma by swirling your finger inside a cosmo then by all means. Rock that shit out in all shades, sistahs.
Suicidal ideation is not the problem. Its the escalation of intensity and inability to clearly sift through the numb pain and reach out to those you care for and trust.